February 20, 2012

DO NOT GET PREGNANT LIST

While I'm in my final stages of pregnancy, I thought it would be beneficial to write down a list of reasons why this is my last pregnancy:


  • My husband and I always agreed on having two kids.
  • We wanted our kids close together in age but can't handle three close together in age.
  • Two kids makes us an even family of four.
  • Two kids fit nicely in the back of a 5-seater car.
  • When going to theme parks as a family, my kids can ride together.
  • I already have my mother's necklace made with their names.
  • I found 2 retro teddy bears from my childhood before we had our son, and I planned to give 1 bear to each of my kids.
  • 2 kids is the perfect number to share a bedroom.
  • My kids will have siblings to lean on later in life but won't cost us an arm and a leg.
  • I hate being pregnant.
  • I want control over my body back.
  • I want to have my kids done with bottles, baby food, and diapers relatively soon.
  • I want to be young enough to enjoy my husband again once my kids go to college.
  • We had one child on my birthday and are expecting another during my husband's birth month.
  • I'm having 1 of each gender and a third child would make somebody feel left out.
  • I'm already slacking with my preparations for baby #2. Any other child would get even less attention.
  • I'm done wondering what my family will look like one day. There is something calming about being absolute.
  • Labor scares the hell out of me. 
  • I'm in my prime for child-rearing. Once I hit 30, I want to move onto the next stage of my life.
  • We get to reuse most of our son's baby items and then we get to sell sell sell!
  • We won't have issues renting a hotel room since we'll only need two doubles.
  • Gender wasn't as important with our child quantity, but it lucked out that we will each have a mini-me.
  • We can have our wills made up after my daughter is born and be pretty set on how things divide.
  • My father will be alive to know each child. His health is poor, so he probably won't live to meet his other grand kids if my brothers wait too long.
  • If I had another girl, I don't have any names picked out. Our two kids' names were picked out in January of 2010. I'm glad to be done with that too.
  • I'm an emotional wreck with this pregnancy. I think it would only get worse with each additional pregnancy.
  • In these later months, it has been extremely hard "taking it easy" with my son. I want nothing more but to carry him around on walks and to play with him on the floor. 
  • I want my energy back.
  • I miss alcohol.
  • I miss drinking tons of caffeine without feeling guilty.
  • I miss skipping meals if I didn't feel hungry.
  • I miss exercising.
  • I miss tanning.
  • I miss getting my hair bleached.
  • I miss rough-housing with my dog.
  • I hate pregnancy cravings and what they do to my body.
  • I love the fact that once my daughter is out of car seats, I will no longer need them in any of my vehicles.
  • My mom had 4 kids because she was addicted to pregnancy and newborns. I don't ever want to be like her.
  • We don't want our kids outnumbering us in the home.



That's just a rough list of things I could think of during this posting. I know baby fever hit me hard around 3 months post partum last time. I have a feeling it'll hit me again after I give birth to my daughter. My husband plans on getting a vasectomy, and I need to fight every urge in my body to make another child. I have a tendency of talking myself into things based on impulse. This list was made to remind me of why we only want 2 kids. Big issues for me are pregnancy related and body issues tied to pregnancy. I have very easy pregnancies, which should make any woman want more. I just don't like it. I worry too much. I anticipate too much. I question every decision I make regarding food, exercise, water consumption, and sleep. It's just too much. I like being prepared and planning for my future. Right now, we are prepared for our two children. If we had an oops situation with a third pregnancy, I would of course be very excited. I would like to avoid that situation though because I enjoy knowing we planned our pregnancies. I like that I can one day tell my kids that we tried to get them. Having a third child and telling him/her that we thought we were done before getting that positive test result would make me feel like a shitty parent. If my husband and I hit the lottery and had some long-term benefits affect our lives, our child count would probably go up. We think 2 kids with day-care, education, and weddings is the most we can handle financially.


1 comment:

MoonStarFalling said...

I really like the way it's worked out for you. In fact I recommended to my best friend that she should do the same and have two back to back and then move on. Just seems like it would be awesome to have two and get the baby stuff over with. Reuse everything and then get rid of it. Financially too, although I think I do it cheaply, once you get to 3+ and especially if they are spaced like mine you can't reuse anything. They just get more expensive as they get older. Anyway. I can really see the benefits you have.