December 10, 2010

Induction Time!

Daddy Holding HeadImage by rumpleteaser via Flickr
As this posts, I'm officially getting admitted to the hospital for my labor induction. I write this post as a married woman with 2 furbabies.   Aside from my dogs, I've never been a caregiver for anyone other than myself.  As of right now, I don't feel extremely maternal. I have a 9lb baby in my belly, but he's just a slow moving blob that occasionally pushes against my rib cage. I'm curious to know what staying in the hospital will feel like. I'm wondering if my labor will be harder than I thought or easier. I'm also crossing my fingers and praying that a c-section is not in my future.

I'm full of excitement and my nerves are all crazy. Most of my nerves are based on labor. The fact that I will have a son in my arms very soon hasn't really hit me yet. Having a child is something that I can't fathom preparing for. I'm as ready as I'll ever be. I want to know what my son looks like. I want to give him the love I've always dreamed of giving my children some day. I can't wait to feel that mother/baby bond that releases all those wonderful endorphins.  I also can't wait to see my husband hold him for the first time.

My husband is a blessing. He's going to make a great dad, and I hope to learn a lot from him. I feel so lucky to be the mother of his children. There are many pregnant girls out there dealing with bad relationships or non-existent relationships. My husband and I have a special bond, and we really do look at life like a team. We want to work together throughout this world, and I can honestly say there's nothing but love between us. I can't wait to share that love and grow it with our son. I can't believe that it's been almost 5 years since we started officially dating each other. As excited and giddy as I was then, I would have never thought we'd be married, home-owners, and expecting our first child right now. I'm more in love with him now than I've ever been before. After this weekend, my love for him will be even greater.

It's game time.
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December 2, 2010

Home Stretch: 38 Weeks Pregnant!

38 WeeksImage by readysubjects via Flickr
I saw my doctor a few days ago. I was told my cervix was 1-2cm dilated and 50% effaced. My doctor asked whether or not I wanted to induce labor at a certain point. While discussing my work schedule, my husbands vacation schedule, and my doctor's on call schedule, we realized all the planets align around December 10th. I would be admitted to the hospital on December 10th in the evening (my hubby's first vacation day). I would be given Cervidil to soften my cervix. From there, I'm assuming pitocin, foley ball, or water breaking may occur. Cervidil was the only thing mentioned by my doctor, but I've been doing more research on further induction techniques. My doctor sounds pretty confident that an induction would work due to my cervix being soft and ready. I'm so happy about the date of this tentative induction. Because of my excitement, I'm now afraid that I'll go into labor before then. Prior to setting this induction plan, I was fearing I'd go two weeks late. It's amazing how a little update from my doctor can change my estimations on labor.

My sleep is severely disrupted due to this pregnancy. My stomach is now finally getting some minor stretch marks on the bottom. The weather has taken an extremely quick turn from mild to freezing temperatures with snow sprinkled in. I'm fully ready to have this baby and start hibernating.
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November 21, 2010

Trying to Induce Labor



I'm just shy of 37 weeks in my pregnancy, and there's a full moon out tonight. So, I've been attempting to upset my stomach with strange foods.

For dinner, I've eaten the following:

Wendy's: chili and fries

Taco Bell: cheesy gordita crunch w/fire sauce & a mountain dew

White Castle: bacon cheeseburger slider

After eating dinner, I waited an hour and then started eating some popcorn. Popcorn always upsets my stomach.

So far? My stomach feels fine. I'll probably wake up with horrible gas tomorrow morning. I'm sure my baby isn't coming out without a fight, so this little experiment was a failure.  I wanted to give it a try just in case... ;)

I haven't been blogging recently because I started my new job November 2nd. Last Friday, I passed my evaluations testing, so I can officially stop being called a trainee. I work in a 911 call center, and it's a part-time position. All month, I've been stressed out about working again, learning new skills, not sleeping much, and getting tested. I know the sooner I have this baby, the sooner I can stay home and take care of myself. Until then, it's a daily fight to get this giant, tired body up and ready for a busy day at work.



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October 27, 2010

33 Week Appointment

Bingo Number 33
I had an OBGYN appointment this morning. As always, I saw my doctor for less than 10 minutes but had to sit there for over an hour. I was utterly shocked to find out my weight had NOT increased since my weigh in on October 7. To have a growing belly for 20 days and NOT gain a pound is such a great feeling. My blood pressure was also good.

I was handed a 34 week appointment packet explaining what to look for when going into labor. It also included information on Post Partum care. I go back in 2 weeks, and I will be tested for Group B Strep Infection. I need to educate myself more on what to expect during appointments these last few weeks. I don't want any surprises.

My doctor discussed fetal movement with me. She's normally a very laid back woman, but she admits to getting a bit "psycho" when it comes to fetal movement. The last thing she wants to hear is a woman call in and say, "I haven't felt any movement since yesterday." My doctor wants me to make sure I'm feeling movement at least 4-5 times per day. She wants first morning wakeup, after breakfast, after lunch, after dinner, and before bedtime. If the baby isn't moving during those times, I am to drink OJ or something similar and lie on my side.

I've read this before but not really worried about it. My baby doesn't move constantly. He sometimes doesn't move after eating either. But, my doctor said the first thing a baby does when it's in danger is slow down to conserve energy. So, if there's no movement, he could still be alive but in danger. I am to call my doctor and come in to have a quick check on the monitor. If his heart rate is low or there's something else noticeable, they will take me in for an emergency C-section to get him out of the dangerous situation. I'm going to pay more attention to his movements. I've read horror stories of women losing their babies around 39 weeks due to the umbilical cord choking them. That idea alone freaks me out.
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October 23, 2010

32 Weeks Pregnant

have a beary merry christmas!Image by Shutter Daddy via Flickr
It is really hard to believe I only have about 7-8 weeks left in this pregnancy. It's the end of October (which has flown by), and November starts the month of December due date mom's going into labor early. On some days, my belly bump feels like it's going to pop open. Other days, I feel like my bump is smaller than many pregnant bellies I see.

I absolutely love the holidays. If it weren't for holidays, the winter would be unbearable. I can't wait to start wearing sweaters, coats, scarves, boots, etc. I want to start blasting Christmas music every time I go somewhere in the car. I'm just so happy that we're welcoming our first child during this time of year. I've got my anniversary coming up in early November followed by my birthday, my son's birthday, and Christmas. My poor husband has some serious shopping to do.

But in all honesty, we both aren't requiring much this year. I think we both just feel blessed to have a child on the way and to have such wonderful family support. I need to ride this emotional high and start nesting already. Our home is pretty darn small, so you'd think it'd be super easy to clean. Actually, I'm sure it is, I just need to start somewhere.

Sorry this post was all over the place. It's 6am on a Saturday, and I'm home alone.
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October 19, 2010

Upside Down Car Loan Woes

Toyota Prius Hybrid, Miami, Florida
My husband and I went out and impulse purchased a 2008 sedan last December. My husband was starting a new job with a long commute, so he was going to need to drive my Prius. At that same time, I was starting my job searching and needed a reliable car to use day-to-day. His car was really old and broken down. I didn't trust it to get me from A to B.

So, we went out one night to look at a dealership's car (found on Ebay), and we were roped into the car. The finance terms are outrageous, and it was a car make that went bankrupt. So, we spent too much on it, and driving it off the lot dropped it's value considerably. We had gotten married a month earlier, and we honestly weren't thinking about starting our family so soon. The car is acceptable for driving around a baby with no problem, but the total cost of the car is really something we don't want to spend. We would have been MUCH happier getting a cheaper car.

As it stands now, we're upside down on the loan roughly $2,000-$3,000. So, we have to pay someone that amount of money just to get it off our hands. We also don't have a savings account built up. I've been unemployed since July of 2009. I'm starting a new job soon, but it's only part-time. So, my take home pay will be much less than my current unemployment benefits. About a month after I start my new job, I'll go on 6 weeks of unpaid leave for the birth of my baby. We've been trying to cut corners, pay things down, and put some money in savings due to all this baby-related work stuff. So, we don't have any spare cash to throw at a newer vehicle.

As it pains me to type this, I know we'll be stuck with this expensive sedan for a while. The interest rate is high, and the loan seems to go on forever. The dealer was willing to try anything to get us into that vehicle. We were so unprepared to purchase that we made a huge mistake that may take years to fix.

We ideally would like a $10,000 used vehicle. With a loan at that amount, we'd have a little more money freed up each month. My husband gets a raise in January, and of course we'll have a nice tax-return in the 2nd quarter. I guess we'll revisit our auto situation then. I'm just bummed.
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October 16, 2010

I Tested Positive for fFn Test

Me in Labor & Delivery looking cheerful
I need to officially start this posting at the beginning of my labor & delivery story. I went to the Oprah Show in downtown Chicago, IL on Thursday, October 14th. This was basically an all-day affair using cars, trains, walking, and buses to get to and from the city. I wouldn't say I walked all day, but I did a lot more walking than I usually do on a day-to-day basis.

That night, I came home at 7pm. My husband and I relaxed in the living room and watched our Thursday night tv shows. I laid on the couch just trying to relax my legs and body. Upon sitting up to get ready for bed, my pelvic bones popped. My lower back hurt worse than I'd ever felt before. And as I sat up, my uterus contracted. This was the first Braxton Hicks contraction I have ever felt. Other contracts were post-sex related, and went away within 5 minutes. This particular contraction wouldn't go away. I asked my husband to come into the room to feel it since he hadn't felt the boulder-like uterus before. After sitting for 10 minutes, I figured a nice, hot shower on my back would help with the pain. I was also hoping the contraction would go away. While undressing for the shower, I got the chills. My teeth were chattering, and my husband said it was by no means cold in our bedroom at the time.

The shower felt amazing, but my stomach never softened. I drank lots of ice water and got into bed on my left side. I stayed up listening to my husband snore just waiting to feel ok again. Since there was no bloody CM or leaking amniotic fluid, I didn't feel it necessary to call my OBGYN. I had an appointment scheduled the following morning, so I figured we would talk then. I fell asleep with the idea that if something was really going on with my body, I would wake up again.

In the morning, my alarm went off and my uterus was soft; however, my body felt like it was hit by a truck. Everything was cracking, popping, and pulling. We got up, dressed, and went to the doctor's office. I told the nurse about my busy day prior and my 30+ minute long contraction. My doctor checked my cervix and verified that I wasn't dilated at all. She did a swab test to see if I would go into preterm labor. She said that it would be highly unlikely, but it was more of a precautionary test. I later looked up the test to find out it's called the Fetal Fibronectin Test (fFN test).

After the doctor appointment, my husband and I went out for breakfast. We then went to the barber shop for his haircut and stopped by Costco for some groceries. While at Costco, I needed to use the bathroom. Upon wiping, I saw blood clots on the tissue and in my underwear. Since my cervix is sensitive and can bleed sometimes, I decided to call the doctor to find out if this could be due to her test.

I talked to the doctor that was on call, and she said it was probably due to my doctor scraping near my cervix and to check it within several hours to see if the bleeding lessens. She said my cervix just needed a break. I was to go home and relax. We drove home after shopping and pulled into the driveway. My doctor's office called me again. This time, it was my doctor asking how my symptoms were. She then notified me that I tested positive for fFN and needed to come to labor & delivery (l&d) for monitoring.

My husband unloaded the car and took our dogs for a short walk. I changed into sweatpants and flip flops. We came back to the hospital and I was hooked up to machines. The head nurse asked me many questions and then told me I was to order a meal for dinner. Since we arrived at 2:40pm, I didn't think I'd be eating dinner at the hospital. I tried asking her when I'd be leaving.

"You'll leave when you're done being monitored." I tried asking it another way, but she gave me the same condescending answer. I just thanked her so she could leave my room and I could vent to my husband. I was constantly updating facebook and asking women on babycenter about how long this monitoring would take. I got mixed answers from 1 hour to 2 weeks. In the meantime, I felt fine. The baby was kicking like crazy, which was cool to hear on the monitor. I wasn't contracting at all, so I wanted to get out of there.

The nurse told me I was ordered to get a shot of betamethasone to help develop my son's lungs in the rare case I had to deliver early. I have to go in today for my second shot. We left after 3.5 hours. My doctor saw my readout and decided I was free to go home.

What a day! I'm still seeing tinges of blood when I wipe and on my panty liners. If I'm still bleeding on Sunday, I'll make another call to the doctor.

Here's a picture of my husband pretending to be asleep:


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I went to the Oprah Show!

Me at the Oprah Winfrey Show outside Harpo Studios
I've already done a quick summary of my trip to the Oprah Show. I've mentioned before on my blog that my mom and I are not very close. However, she invited me to go to the Oprah Show taping when she was given two tickets by a neighbor.

Here's my summary

My episode will air on October 19th.

Pre-show
We got there and had to stand in line for a while. My mom and I were pulled from our 4 person party due to my pregnancy. I was allowed to sit in the first floor waiting area (reserved for obese, pregnant, and/or handicapped individuals). Our purses were checked and cell phones/cameras had to be removed. It was so hard going through this process without being able to take pictures or update my fb status. lol Certain groups of people were seated first. These were studio audience guests that had written into Oprah requesting to see Susan Boyle, etc. They were all super fans. Our handicapper group went next followed by all the healthy people that were waiting 3 flights upstairs.We were told by other people waiting in line what the show's topic was - Susan Boyle. I wasn't too excited about it. I'm not a fan of Susan Boyles, and I was hoping for an episode featuring some big scandal or celebrity interview. The A taping in the morning was a serious episode featuring Tyler Perry. I would have preferred that show.


Seating
The audience area is always smaller in real life than what it looks like on TV. We were seated in the back, upper sections (which aren't very far away or high up). I'm wearing a turquoise, stripped maternity top and am sitting with a rail to my left. I'm right next to an aisle/entrance. The choir that sang in the first performance came out right next to me. Hopefully, I'll be on camera due to that. Oprah interviewed everyone from the right end of the stage. We sat on the opposite end with the guests.

Taping Experience
I went to the Oprah Show taping today. The theme was about "The Next Big Thing" (I think). The first guest was Susan Boyle. She sang, "Don't Dream It's Over," off her upcoming album The Gift. There was a children's choir that came out with her. It was pretty cool. Susan looks great physically. Her accent was cute, and her green corset dress made it hard for her to sit in her chair for the interview.

The second guest was the 10 year old girl from America's Got Talent, Jackie Evancho. Her performance was AMAZING. She was awesome and cute.

The third interview/performance was Debby Boone. She sang, "You Light Up My Life."

We were then told that Oprah had to record herself for the Daily Show with Jon Stewart (AIRING TONIGHT 10/14!). She'll be on with a black dress and diamond collar. Anyway, we were told to all laugh hysterically as if we heard the best joke in the world. So, if you tune in tonight at 10pm CST, you'll hear us all laughing.What are we laughing at? No clue!

During Oprah's speech to the Daily Show, she told the camera that everyone in Jon's audience would get the new XBOX 360 4GB Kinect bundle. I heard that and got bummed. Then, a second later, she said that everyone in her audience would be getting one as well. That's when the real cheering came up. We'll be getting the XBOX's shipped to our homes in November due to the release date being 11/4. My husband is a very happy camper with this.

Oprah in Person
Oprah was amazing. She came out with makeup/hair/dress all done. She was carrying around her high heels because she didn't want to wear them until she had to. Since she was already mic'd, we could hear everything she said. She was talking about her feet being a size 11. She was charasmatic and funny. She talked about her last episode for the final season and how everyone would be crying. She joked that she wouldn't cry because she'd pop a Valium to chill out. During each stage change and break, she's engage the audience with a joke or story. At some point, she left and promised to come back. Everyone cheered upon her arrival, and she said, "Everyone's gotta pee at some point!" She was great. The entire time we saw Oprah, she had a smile on her face and a wonderful, positive attitude. AND, she looks just as good in person as she does on TV.
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October 8, 2010

2nd Baby Shower Was Amazing

Baby Shower Giraffe Cake
Our second baby shower was held on Saturday, October 2nd. This party was located in our state and the guests were all my family and friends. We had a rather large turnout, and our son made out like a bandit with gifts and love.

I'm having some slight problems acquiring photos from my sisters-in-law. I took some pictures of the decorations and such before anyone really arrived, but I really wish I could have the images of me and guests.

This shower was co-ed, but the only men were my husband, brothers, and father. I was fortunate enough to have my mom there and my step-mother NOT there. My step-mother does not get along well with anyone in our family (except my father). So, she decided to boycott the entire event. While she thought she was hurting my feelings, it was quite the opposite. There was cheering and high-fives abound for everyone!

The theme of the party was giraffes to coincide with our nursery theme. The cake was a giraffe. There were giraffe plates, balloons, and banners. It was amazing how many giraffes my sisters-in-law were able to find for this. They really put in a lot of time and money for this shower, so I am truly indebted to them. I'm hopeful that one of the two will get pregnant within the next year. Both have their reasons for waiting, but I can wish, can't I?
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Successful 29 Week 3D Ultrasound

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29 Week 3D/4D Ultrasound
I haven't updated in a while. My hubby and I went in for our 3rd and final 3D ultrasound on September 29. I was exactly 29 weeks pregnant on that date. This was our third attempt at 3D because the two prior times either resulted in poor images or no images at all.

I guess third time's a charm. Our images aren't perfectly clear and sharp due to my anterior placenta, but we were able to see our little man's face. He's got more fatty tissue in his cheeks and mouth. The image posted to the right shows his mouth slightly open. For the most part, he was stretching back with his hand around his neck. So, we got some cute shots of his arm under his chin (below).

29 Week 3D/4D Ultrasound
I'm sure to strangers this must look generic and silly. I've heard several comments from friends and family stating they thought 3D ultrasounds look "creepy". For my husband and I, we were so excited to see who was in there. If the technology is available, affordable, and safe, why would we pass up the opportunity to see our baby's face?

Immediate family members loved seeing these pictures. It was nice finally being able to upload something to Facebook and have family comment on them. The 26 week ultrasound pictures weren't clear and our man was really too small to look like a real baby yet. Now, we have 9-10 weeks until our baby's birth. I can't wait to see if his looks stayed the same from 29 weeks or if he's gotten any fatter!

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September 26, 2010

Loneliness and Family

It's 2am on a Sunday morning. My husband just left to work some extra hours of overtime. I should be asleep right now. Actually, I was home all day Saturday waiting for my younger brother to call, so we could go out to a local restaurant together. My brothers and wives (and I) were invited to go to this restaurant's 5th anniversary party for Saturday night. Unfortunately for me, my younger brother never called. He's starting to see someone, so he spent the entire day working with my older brother and probably decided he'd rather go to this restaurant with the new girl than to call his big sister like planned.

I have issues going to places alone due to anxiety. Aside from that, I've never been to this restaurant before. It's about 45 minutes away, so I wanted to carpool with another person. Being pregnant, I don't want to frequent a restaurant/bar by myself. Since my husband had to leave the house by 1:30am, he had to go to sleep at 7:30pm. I had to take sleep aids just to fall asleep with him. I would have preferred going out with my siblings for a good time.

Instead, I get to wake up in the middle of the night to see all their facebook status updates showing how great the evening went. I get to sit here in bed with my two dogs crying over my laptop.

This issue is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to my family. Every week, it feels like I'm being blown off from them. I get to hear/read about my brothers and their wives going out to eat or visiting each others' houses. We all live within a 20 mile radius, so I get hurt when my phone doesn't ring.

I think with bad friends, it's easy to cut them off. With bad family, it just hurts. My next baby shower is coming up soon. It's a huge family event. I just need to make it until that day. I need to keep pretending that I'm content with the current family dynamics. After the shower, I intend to dissolve into the background. If I stop "pestering" my siblings, maybe it won't hurt so much. Maybe they'll feel better about doing things without me.

My dad has mentioned that our family is dysfunctional. He said it was a good thing my husband and I were having a baby because we now have a chance to start fresh. While I understand his point, I think having a baby is the perfect time for family to come together and help out. My husband and I aren't having a child so we finally have something to do on a Saturday night; we're having a child because we can't imagine life without children. I don't want my children growing up without anyone from my family being represented. I can't force the aunts and uncles to show up to our house or to come to any birthday parties. It's painful, but I don't see a silver lining.
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September 23, 2010

Time Magazine Article on Pregnancy

Successful pregnancy
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Here's the video:





I'm watching Morning Joe right now on MSNBC. They just featuring a "First Look at Time Magazine" interview. The cover features a pregnant woman jumping and the headline relates to how the 9 months of pregnancy can affect the rest of your baby's life. The magazine is not out yet. I can't even find the cover art online, but I will definitely buy the magazine once I see it.

One mention from the article explained how women pregnant during extremely stressful times have a higher chance of having babies with schizophrenia later in life. Women with Type II Diabetes have a higher chance of passing it onto their first born and lesser chance of their second if they get the disease treated before getting pregnant the second time.

I want to read the article to see what things I could be doing differently. I only have 3 months left, but any scientifically proven changes I can make now would be beneficial in the long run.
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1st Baby Shower Was a Success

Giant Baby Shower Cupcake To Go!Image by clevercupcakes via Flickr
My husband and I drove several states away to attend our first baby shower. This shower featured members of my husband's family. Since his family is more scattered throughout the US, several members flew in to help celebrate with us.

I don't know how my husband felt, but I was shocked at how many gifts we received for our son. There was so much thought and love put into everything for the shower. I was able to meet some more family members, and I was physically feeling great too.

Our son's nursery is now fully loaded with boxes and baby shower bags. There's barely enough room to walk. We're not really opening much or washing clothing until after the second shower. We want to make sure we don't get double items without proper receipts.

Our next shower is on October 2nd. That shower will have all my friends and family. My two sisters-in-law are throwing it, and I can't wait to see everyone. 
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September 21, 2010

My Baby is Kicking Up a Storm

The human fetus moves throughout its entire de...Image via Wikipedia
The past two days have been full of kicks and flutters and punches. I don't really know where my little guy is inside my belly, but he's creating quite a stir. My husband was actually pushing back against my belly last night. After each push, our son would kick back. It kept my husband entertained until he began falling asleep. At that point, my husband started kicking. So, I had two men kicking me. haha

Fetal movement is a wonderful thing when I'm awake and going about my day. It's a completely different thing to feel the baby kicking my stomach while I'm trying to sleep. Due to that, my sleep last night was horrible. I'm entering my third trimester for this pregnancy. I'm almost 28 weeks pregnant. I've noticed that my belly has hit a growth spurt. It's sticking out farther and farther. I often stare at my reflection when walking past windows. I just can't believe how big I've gotten.
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September 11, 2010

3D Ultrasound at 26 Weeks Pregnant Went Wrong

I went for an elective 3D/4D ultrasound at exactly 26 weeks pregnant this past week. My husband went along with two of my best friends. It was my friend's birthday, so we all went as a group to help celebrate her day and bond.

The ultrasound technician discovered I had an anterior placenta. With my placenta being on the front of my uterus, it makes things harder to see in on the 3D equipment. Bryce was head down, facing my right, with his feet folded near his head. Obviously, he's way more flexible than I ever was considering I can't even touch my toes.

Even though I was drinking lots of fluids several days prior to this appointment, Bryce's face was still way too close to my placenta. Each image was blurry and had a cloud over his profile. The image I've attached to this post is THE closest picture I could get with any baby-looking features. Even then, my husband and I were hoping to see some recognizable features like my nose or his cheeks. The technician didn't try to move me much or get Bryce to change positions. We walked out of the office feeling disappointed and let down.

I posted pictures of my appointment online and had several other pregnant women tell me about their anterior placentas. Apparently, with the anterior placenta, it is still possible to get a clear profile shot. It was just my baby's position that was messing it up. I emailed the ultrasound center and asked if I could get a redo appointment done for free. The CSR called me back yesterday and agreed to let us try again. Our next appointment is on Tuesday. If things go well, I will most certainly be adding some positive reviews for this company online. If Bryce isn't cooperating again, I'll have to see what this place says.
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26 Weeks Pregnant

Here's me at 26w1d pregnant. My husband took this picture a few days ago. While I don't think it's very flattering, I've been getting nothing but positive reviews on facebook and on my babycenter account.

My little guy is moving more and more and more. Yesterday, I actually felt a contraction. I didn't actually feel anything on the inside, but my uterus got extremely hard. I used my hand on my belly, and it felt like an adult skull popping out. It was a little freaky because I know my baby is inside there; however, the contraction went away quickly and painlessly.



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Avoiding Stress While Pregnant


There's currently a situation in my life which is completely absorbing my mind. (Hint: it's not the pregnancy.) This problem is wrapped around someone hugely important to me. There are so many things I want to say to this person. I want to break down into tears and have an hours-long talk with him/her. Because I'm pregnant, I haven't made a single attempt to say or do anything. The thought of crying so hard I can't breathe just doesn't sound healthy with this baby inside me.

Instead of talking to this person about my "problem", I'm just cutting him/her off. Things that we normally used to share are no longer even available to him/her. I have a feeling s/he doesn't even realize why things are different. I'm bothered by the fact that this person is constantly on my mind because I don't think he/she even thinks something is wrong with regards to our recent communications.

All I can say is that this person is hurting me. I convert my pain into anger, and it's only making the situation worse. I really feel like I'm on the verge of conflict, but I'm doing my best to keep my stress levels low.
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I'm Following You Again

If you're wondering why my blog now has two authors and you've also received an email stating I'm following you, it's because I'm tired of logging in and out of various google accounts just to blog.

I have my primary email address, which I use for basically every google service. When I created this blog, I wanted it anonymous and separate from my primary account. Well, since I'm always logged into my primary, it gets annoying to log out and log back in to check this blog. Since I don't like being annoyed, I just haven't been blogging very often.

I've attached my primary account to this blog in hopes that I'll be able to follow other blogs more frequently and to be able to post more often. I hope that explains things!
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September 5, 2010

I Need a Birth Plan

Breastfeeding an infantImage via Wikipedia
I thought the birth would be an easy thing to "plan" for since much of it is out of my control. My main priorities were hospital - epidural - and healthy baby.

Now, I'm learning about various shots given after birth. I'm learning about pain medication. There's talk of nurses giving my baby a bottle before he has a chance to breastfeed. All this is scary and requires WAY more research.

I'm bummed...
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August 29, 2010

I Need a Last Will and Testament

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I woke up earlier than my husband or dogs today and immediately thought about our assets. I can't explain why I thought of assets, but I knew I needed to research my options for estate planning. I looked up online what happens if I die without having a will. Since we have our first child on the way, we need to start making smart decisions for his future.  I always just figured my belongings would go to my husband upon my death. As it turns out, without a will, my husband only gets joint belongings. The remaining 2/3 of my "estate" goes to my parents if they're alive. If they're gone, my estate goes to my siblings. I don't like either of those options. I want my husband getting my belongings. As it stands, our mortgage is only in my name. So, if I died tomorrow, the home my husband has been living in and paying for would be taken away from him and given to my parents. As some of my readers know, I am not close with my parents like I should be, and that would not be an option for me. My husband is my life.

Of course, there are family photos and childhood items I'm sure my family would like to have, but I know my husband would have no problem giving them to my family. I just want the power to decide to be placed in his hands. I have my $30,000 engagement ring that needs special rules. Since it's a family heirloom, I need it to stay in the family. It's been passed down to me through several generations of women from my dad's side of the family. If I died before having my son, I would want my husband to give it back to my father. If I died without having a daughter, my son would not automatically get the ring. My husband would have to hold onto it until Bryce has a daughter. We just have to be very careful to ensure the ring doesn't end up leaving the family due to divorce or some other nasty legal issue.


Anyway, I looked into Legalzoom.com for starters. The price to get a will through that website was under $100. Upon reading some complaints and reviews, I decided that DIY will resources were not for us. We need real, legal advice from a lawyer. I need to make sure the will is legally sound and strong enough to hold its own in court. I would like to have our wills each done before Brycen arrives in December. If that's not financially feasible, I want to at least make sure we have our plans written down (along with our asset inventory).
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I Love My Supportive Husband

My husband is working and working and working to help us stay afloat. Aside from the fact that he has a high paying job, he signs up for overtime (OT) whenever he can. Luckily, his employer ALWAYS has OT available. When my husband isn't working at his regular job, he likes to referee young football players (ages 4-9). Reffing small children is easy because they aren't strict with regulations. My husband gets in some solid exercise and comes home with a nice tan from being outside.

When my husband isn't earning money, he's at home getting things ready for Bryce's arrival. Rooms are getting cleaner, dogs are getting exercised, groceries are getting purchased. I really don't know when my husband actually sleeps!

We were run ragged yesterday. I had a big family breakfast while my husband was reffing. After that, we went with friends to Edwards Apple Orchard for some apple-cider donuts and cold apple cider. We were asked to stop by my aunt and uncle's home to visit some relatives that were in town from out of state. Immediately following that, we had dinner plans with family and birthday bowling until 11pm with the same group. I literally thought I was going to die by the end of the night. My legs were swollen. My voice was gone. My stomach hurt (tightness). I just wanted to climb into bed and not get back up.

Yesterday was probably the busiest day my husband and I have ever had. We're normally homebodies and never included in anything. While it was great to be booked for the day, it took a lot of work and stress on my part to get family together. I can't take that responsibility on each week. So, this week may or may not be a family-free week.


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August 26, 2010

Pregnancy Sleep Isn't Easy

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So, I actually woke myself up this morning with a large, snoring snarf! It was as if I was dreaming about snorting and actually did it in real life. My husband claimed he didn't hear me snoring like a chainsaw, but there's just too much evidence to back it up. My throat was extremely sore. I also think I inhaled a dog hair or something because my allergies kicked into overdrive. I'm doing this short little blog post while my Benadryl starts taking effect.

Aside from needing to pee during the night, my biggest problem involves positioning my body comfortably. I have a big body pillow to curl up to in the center of our bed. Once my body naturally wants to roll over, I either get stuck and wake up, or I somehow end up on my back. It's extremely difficult to turn and face the opposite direction.

Also, now that I'm pregnant, I have a tendency to put my arms over my head while lying on my back. Pre-pregnancy, I didn't sleep on my back at all. I most certainly didn't put my arms up by the wall.
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August 21, 2010

Feeling Pregnancy Bloat



We went to Olive Garden two nights ago, and I ate lots of salty, garlicky foods.  Yesterday, I suffered the consequences of my actions.

I had a persistent splitting headache. My lower back felt like I had a blade piercing it. My boobs doubled in size.  Regardless of how much water I drank, my pee was dark. Also, my 1 hour nap resulted in a migraine with my entire face looking flushed.

I seriously wanted to die. I attempted to make a nice steak dinner. The meat was overcooked and rubbery. The potatoes had a strange flavor, and my hubby complained that the green beans tasted too much like green beans. Ugghh!

My hubby woke up at 1am to go to work today. He's putting in another 12 hour shift to help with our bills. I'm going to do some work around the house to make him feel like I'm pulling my weight in this relationship.

Here's hoping my more annoying pregnancy symptoms stay away today.

Location : Pingree Grove, IL,

August 20, 2010

Nursery Cleaning Day!

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My husband had two days off from work, and I asked him as a special project if he'd go into our "nursery" and clean it out. As a reward, I would give him a surprise. He divided the cleaning between his two days off, and the room is ready to go! Prior to the cleaning, our old office was filled with clutter and junk. We live in a two-bedroom condo, and we would place objects into the second bedroom when we didn't know where to put them.

The room was so bad that I couldn't even walk into it without wanting to scream. There was no clean floor space, and there was no rhyme or reason to the organization of the room. I couldn't find anything I needed. So, I didn't know where to start. I hoped and prayed that my husband would take charge and tackle the mess. Luckily, he was up to the challenge.

I won't take a picture of the room in it's newly cleaned state because there's not much to it. The walls are a medium olive green. There's some paintings from our aunt's gallery hanging on the walls. There's two dressers loaded with baby-related gear, and there's a lonely rocking chair in the corner.

Crib furniture, curtains, decorations, etc. all need to be purchases still. Once I have most of the items I need for the "nursery" to become a nursery, I will post an updated picture.




As a reward, my husband will now be receiving Halo: Reach on its release date. The game isn't cheap, but it's well worth his effort.











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